The attached video and article are great. The writer really captures the truth about what goes on in a retirement community when older adults talk about love and aging.
Good for older adults and their offspring!
Enjoy!
http://www.pegasusnews.com/news/2012/sep/28/the-mayor-dallas-videofest-dallas-senior-citizens/
Sunday, September 30, 2012
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
When does middle age (and old age) begin?
http://www.medicaldaily.com/section/news/us-world.htm
Hi Folks,
Please check out the "Middle Age May Actually Begin at 55" entry on the link. I tend to agree with the folks researching the 1,000 participants in the UK who've concluded that middle age begins later than we had assumed, and ends at age 69 and 277 days. What that means, of course, is that we have to ratchet up the bar for those of us post-middle age; something I've been saying for a while.
In any event, the same predictors hold true for both middle and (dare I say it?) old age. Which is ... that both middle and old age is a state of mind, rather than something that begins at a certain age.
What do you say?
Regina
Hi Folks,
Please check out the "Middle Age May Actually Begin at 55" entry on the link. I tend to agree with the folks researching the 1,000 participants in the UK who've concluded that middle age begins later than we had assumed, and ends at age 69 and 277 days. What that means, of course, is that we have to ratchet up the bar for those of us post-middle age; something I've been saying for a while.
In any event, the same predictors hold true for both middle and (dare I say it?) old age. Which is ... that both middle and old age is a state of mind, rather than something that begins at a certain age.
What do you say?
Regina
Saturday, September 8, 2012
Great 'toons from AARP
Check out this link from AARP. I got a big kick out of the cartoons. Hope you do too.
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http://bcove.me/ld86hjjp
Tuesday, June 19, 2012
Is There a Difference Between Love When You're Younger and Love When You're Older?
I asked several single older adults who were in committed relationships with a significant other if there was a difference between their experience now as compared to when they were younger.
As you would expect, they all answered "yes." I asked them to explain further, and this is what they replied in their own words.
"If you are not living together with your significant other what works so well is that you have independence yet you have this close companionship. You're not infringing on their personal habits. At this stage, your children are grown and you have no responsibilities for them. Hopefully, you're not dependent on someone else for your subsistence. Even if your health is so-so, you can still be together and compromise on what you can do. It's a freer sort of thing. When you're younger, there are too many things that influence. Parents, building a future. But at this age you're more open than when you're younger; you're less materialistic, which affects the way you look at love.
"At this age," she sums up, "I'll take whatever joy comes my way. Having someone close to you is terrific."
........................
An 85-year-old man who is blessed with good health sums it up with "contentedness vs. excitement." He explains, "When you're younger the hormones that keep the race going are more prominent. In fact, you're dominated by them, but as you get older, your biology changes and life is not as intense ... you're not pushing all the time, which reflects itself in personal relationships.
"We don't have time to spare," says an 81-year-old woman, "and so we act on our impulses. When you're young, you're so busy being young that you just don't get it. You're too concerned with life and it goes by so fast. When you're older, you realize the true pleasure of connection and you're really in touch with your feelings.
Well, folks, what do you think? Can we talk? I'd love to hear your comments. Please fill out the comment box or email me at 2rdreyer@gmail.com.
THANK YOU FOR LISTENING!
As you would expect, they all answered "yes." I asked them to explain further, and this is what they replied in their own words.
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"I appreciate having somebody to be close with, somebody who cares about me and gives me lots of attention and affection. Because I am older, I feel young again!"
- This 77-year-old woman continued, "When you're younger, love is more exciting and intense. When you're older, love is calmer and in a way a more different beauty; a lovely relief from the intensity of younger love."
- .....................
"If you are not living together with your significant other what works so well is that you have independence yet you have this close companionship. You're not infringing on their personal habits. At this stage, your children are grown and you have no responsibilities for them. Hopefully, you're not dependent on someone else for your subsistence. Even if your health is so-so, you can still be together and compromise on what you can do. It's a freer sort of thing. When you're younger, there are too many things that influence. Parents, building a future. But at this age you're more open than when you're younger; you're less materialistic, which affects the way you look at love.
"At this age," she sums up, "I'll take whatever joy comes my way. Having someone close to you is terrific."
........................
An 85-year-old man who is blessed with good health sums it up with "contentedness vs. excitement." He explains, "When you're younger the hormones that keep the race going are more prominent. In fact, you're dominated by them, but as you get older, your biology changes and life is not as intense ... you're not pushing all the time, which reflects itself in personal relationships.
"With men especially, he continues, "you need to prove yourself earlier in life and the need to do that when you're older isn't paramount. Therefore, you've become a less intense person. I don't want to rush now," he says. I want serenity.".........................
"We don't have time to spare," says an 81-year-old woman, "and so we act on our impulses. When you're young, you're so busy being young that you just don't get it. You're too concerned with life and it goes by so fast. When you're older, you realize the true pleasure of connection and you're really in touch with your feelings.
"To love and be loved is truly what is most important in life ... family, friends, and your soul mate -- if you're lucky -- to share the beauty of love."-0-
Well, folks, what do you think? Can we talk? I'd love to hear your comments. Please fill out the comment box or email me at 2rdreyer@gmail.com.
THANK YOU FOR LISTENING!
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Finally - A Website!!
Hello All,
As stated on my website, a problem that many 70+ single men and women have, is "Where do I find a significant other/caring companion/special friend?"
Surveyed participants claim they met in these places:
The bottom line to finding a caring companion? Keep your heart and your mind open to new experiences as you wend your way in the autumn of your life. If you'd like my tip sheet for keeping your heart and mind open, just let me know by filling out the comments section.
That's it for now.
All the best,
Regina
As stated on my website, a problem that many 70+ single men and women have, is "Where do I find a significant other/caring companion/special friend?"
Surveyed participants claim they met in these places:
- A singles discussion group connected with a branch of the church to which they both belonged;
- Through their retirement community;
- Through volunteer work where they were both volunteers;
- Through a non-profit agency where one was an employee and the other was a volunteer;
- Through mutual friends in a social setting (wedding, bar mitzvah);
- Through a personal ad in a community newspaper;
- Through an activity at the public library.
The bottom line to finding a caring companion? Keep your heart and your mind open to new experiences as you wend your way in the autumn of your life. If you'd like my tip sheet for keeping your heart and mind open, just let me know by filling out the comments section.
That's it for now.
All the best,
Regina
Monday, February 6, 2012
I'm now in with the Big People
Hi All,
After much back-and-forth correspondence, I'm finally in the Barnes & Noble bookstores as well as on their website both as a print book and an eBook, the latter at $.99. My book, Love & Successful Aging when You're 70+ and Single, is also on Amazon.com and Kindle, And, depending on your eReader, should be available at the low, low price of $.99.
Why did I price the eBook so low? Easily answered. I got caught up in the WSJ article about a lawyer who took a shot at writing an adventure story and selling it at that price. She made $130,000 and is looking for a publisher to come up with a print edition! Most self-publishers invest in a print edition and hope THAT sells! My experience with eBooks so far? Made squat.
Okay, enough complaining. Am checking out other avenues to pursue sales.
By the way, I'm selling back some of my books to Amazon.com who then sells them to other vendors. It's a neat way to de-clutter your bookcase and get a credit at Amazon to buy still more books! And the neat thing is they pay the UPS charges! Why not check it out? Now to find the right-size box ...
Thanks for listening. Hope to hear from you soon.
All the best,
Regina
After much back-and-forth correspondence, I'm finally in the Barnes & Noble bookstores as well as on their website both as a print book and an eBook, the latter at $.99. My book, Love & Successful Aging when You're 70+ and Single, is also on Amazon.com and Kindle, And, depending on your eReader, should be available at the low, low price of $.99.
Why did I price the eBook so low? Easily answered. I got caught up in the WSJ article about a lawyer who took a shot at writing an adventure story and selling it at that price. She made $130,000 and is looking for a publisher to come up with a print edition! Most self-publishers invest in a print edition and hope THAT sells! My experience with eBooks so far? Made squat.
Okay, enough complaining. Am checking out other avenues to pursue sales.
By the way, I'm selling back some of my books to Amazon.com who then sells them to other vendors. It's a neat way to de-clutter your bookcase and get a credit at Amazon to buy still more books! And the neat thing is they pay the UPS charges! Why not check it out? Now to find the right-size box ...
Thanks for listening. Hope to hear from you soon.
All the best,
Regina
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